Just Mauied :: Our Ceremony Confession

Confession: We were SOOO ready to be married, our ceremony script was the last thing we wanted to deal with/cared about.

Whew, so glad I got that off my chest. I’ve seen lots of brides post their ceremony in full and talk about how much time they put into their ceremony script and how important certain passages for them were, or poems they included. Which I think is awesome and I loved reading what they put together, but truthfully, throughout the wedding planning process the ceremony became less and less important for us. We were just so excited to get married and have all our family and friends there to celebrate. We waited 7 long years (and boy were they long) to get married. We sorta just wanted it done and over with. Are we the only one’s out there who felt this way?

So, when it came down to putting together our ceremony, we had no idea what to do. Luckily, our Priest gave us this handy-dandy book giving us suggestions for the order of the ceremony, passages, and vows. Over the 2 years of our planning I did save a few sets of vows that I loved. None too religious, but just the right amount that Mr. Knight and I felt comfortable with. There was no “we promise to bring our children up Catholic,” etc. in our ceremony. We want our children to choose what religion is right for them. We will introduce them to Catholicism, but ultimately we want them to decide for themselves. I’ll step down from my soap box now on that subject.

Really, we just wanted to say our vows, kiss and head over to the party, but since we paid so much for the ceremony site, decor, and chair rentals, we thought, “man we better make this thing a little longer.” We set on a limit of 20 minutes tops from processional to recessional. Hey, it’s hot in Florida in May, we don’t want our guests sweating in their fancy clothes.

We had no idea our ceremony would have such a profound effect on us.

Kyle, do you pledge to love Kimberly and throughout your years together to be honest, faithful and kind to her. Do you pledge to give to her the same happiness she gives to you, and to respect her for who she is?

Even though we didn’t spend an exorbitant amount of time on crafting our ceremony, that didn’t mean the ceremony wasn’t a special moment for us. Saying our vows was the moment it all suddenly felt so real. We were getting married. I had no idea how I would feel up there, how important saying these simple words to each other, would be.

I come here today, to join my life to yours…I pledge to be true to you…to respect you…and to grow with you throughout the years…Time may pass, fortune may smile, trials may come…no matter what we may encounter together, I vow here that this love will be my only love… I will make my home in your heart from this day forward.

It hit each of us like a freight train during the ceremony.

Mr. Knight was the first one to completely lose it.

As soon as his lips started to shake and tears started to come down his face, I lost it. Check out the video below to see Mr. Knight’s mini cry. I edited out my complete UGLY cry. It really is quite awful. Only our family will be subjected to that craziness. Why couldn’t I have have a nice/pretty cry?

♥ Our Wedding // Vow Snippet from Mrs Gator on Vimeo.

If you look close enough in the pictures, you’ll see red tearful eyes shining through. I remember trying so hard to keep everything light hearted during the ceremony. I’m always the one crying at my friend’s weddings. At Seminole Bridesmaid’s wedding, someone sang Mandy Moore’s song “Only Hope” and I lost it… did I mention I was the maid of honor? Yeah, I totally lost it in front of an audience. Embarrassing.

Anyways, for our wedding I planned to hold myself together. That’s a little hard when you are saying the words of committing your life to the one you love.

Kyle, take this ring as a sign of my love and respect. I vow to share my life with you from this day forward. With this ring I marry you.

Mr. Knight’s hands had swelled up a little from all the heat, so his ring was a little bit hard to get on. I’m a tough girl though, I managed to cram that wedding band on his finger!

And, voila! We’re married!

Sometimes I think we should have done things differently, maybe wrote our own vows. But, looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing. We did what we felt most comfortable with, spiritually and emotionally.

Do/Did you have trouble writing your vows? Was it something you did together with your fiance?

If you would like to see the rest of our ceremony, you can download a PDF of it by clicking the link below.
Simple and Sweet Ceremony

All photos by Starks Photography

9 Comment

  1. Hannah says:

    Our ceremony was extremely important to us and we wanted to make sure we were on really on the same page with our promises to each other. We cared about each and every word and it made the ceremony extremely special. We even framed our vows and have hung them in our house.

    I love that we made it so special and unique although it was a TON of time and effort :)

    Oh and I ugly cried too, no worries.

  2. Emily says:

    I love you guys and I loved every word you said. It was perfect. Couldn’t hold it in when he teared up.

    I also am scared of write your own vows. For us it felt too transparent, and I loved saying the traditional vows that had been said so many times throughtout history before us.

    I also want to commend you for your honesty on this blog. You really let us peak into your heart without trying to compete with anyone, please anyone, or put down anyone. You are such an inspiration to brides and bloggers. But I’m partial:)

  3. The look on Mr. Knight’s face as you try to make the ring fit is priceless.

    Oh my goodness, he looks like a pirate going: “Yarrrrrrrr”…lol :)

    Congratulations and best of luck to the two of you in all of your endeavors together!

  4. Brandi says:

    We wrote our own vows and picked the readings we wanted, but left everything else up to our awesome officiant/close friend. I don’t think it matters if you wrote yourself or not, the point is that you two obviously meant every word, and I got all choked up watching you guys choke up! Too sweet!

  5. Lauren says:

    I love this post. I am that girl who cries about EVERYTHING. Publix commercials, adorable puppies, this post :)

    And I think that it doesn’t really matter if vows are word for word written by the couple. If the words speak to you and your relationship, that’s all you really need.

  6. Mrs Gator says:

    @Hannah: Ugly cry is the worst!

    @Emily: Thank you for appreciating my honesty!

    @Minneapolis Wedding: Are you kidding? He IS a pirate! lol. Only my husband would make that face during our wedding ceremony. That’s why I married him. Such a funny character! Love him!

    @Lauren: Oh girl. I feel ya. If anyone is crying, I start crying. Shoot, I cry when I see babies because they are so beautiful. I cry when I watch ESPN documentaries too. It’s ridiculous!

  7. mama knight says:

    OMG! I finally got to see the vows!!!!!!! And I had a great cry! I love you two soooooooo much that I just have to cry with joy!!!! Nothing like a good happy cry-fest :-)

  8. Mrs Gator says:

    @Mama Knight: Hooray!!!! I’m so happy you got to see them! Once the final edit is done of the DVD, we’ll have it out to you!

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